I wake up my kids at 5:55am to get ready for school. They respond in a monotone, “G’morning, Mom.” Their little bodies make their way to the kitchen with feet dragging and shoulders slumped, like walking zombies. Little hands grab the oatmeal packets, fill the same bowl every day, open the right hand refrigerator, Read More

You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine. Meanwhile the world goes, Read More

You are probably used to “white knuckling” it when you are trying to change a habit. You grab on tight until your knuckles turn white. You are grinning and bearing it until you make it through to the other freakishly distant side. You want to change this habit. What you secretly want is for change, Read More

Some of the most transformational work I do is one-on-one, helping someone figure out what fundamental belief they have that is holding them back or causing them grief. What the heck is keeping them from living a huge, delicious, wonderful life? I throw out hunches. Sometimes my hunches are right. Sometimes they’re wrong but, Read More

This is a story I like to tell everyone who will listen to it, because it’s just so freaking amazing, and was as close to a miracle as I have ever gotten. That I know of. Here goes. How acupuncture miraculously cured my allergies. By Ellen Yale. The kids were about 8 and 10-years-old, Read More

A big storm is coming, and it brought out all my “shit” about eating. Well at least some of it. I’ve got a lot of “shit” about eating. When a big winter storm comes to Charlotte, NC, maybe once or twice a year, the whole city shuts down. It’s not worth buying enough snow, Read More

I have my one-on-one clients send me their food journal.  In that journal they write what they ate that day and what thought triggered them to overeat. The journal asks, “Why are you going to eat?” The answer I’m hearing a lot this week is, “Eh… Why not?” What the Wha!?!  You have hired a weight, Read More

Give someone you love (including yourself) a gift you can’t buy. Give them the gift of meaningful experiences. Here are a few ideas: Give a homemade holiday dinner. My friend Jacki was running low on money for holiday gifts to give to our large group of close friends, so she invited everyone to an, Read More

I’ve always told Bayla I thought she had Susan’s hands.  I am glad I had the chance to take a photo. We were given a Christmas miracle.  It’s one more Christmas with Susan. Susan is my husband’s sweet, lovely sister.  She was diagnosed with cancer in September, after waking up paralyzed.  The paralysis was, Read More

Your body can be a great source of joy. Stop snickering.  It’s no wonder we don’t talk about sensuality if you are going to snicker like a preteen boy when I bring it up. None-the-less, when is the last time you lingered in the shower, paying attention to the feeling of water splashing on, Read More