I have spent a lot of time trying to get my life in balance. Right now, I am spending a lot more time alone than I am with people. (Sound much like COVID quarantine?) The balance is off. But here is what I have learned: Balance is a feeling, not a goal. Things won’t, Read More
Thursday I moved my Mom into a memory care room. It’s in the healthcare center of Sharon Towers, where she has lived the last three years. It was expected. That’s how Alzheimer’s rolls. Slow and steady with fits and spurts along the way. I could choose to make up stories about how Alzheimer’s is, Read More
Don’t flinch. I am going to use the word… energy. I have always steered away from coachy terms, but I find myself drawn more and more to the concept of energy. It’s like the term nuclear. There is no other single word for it. Energy can sound like it is made up or mystical. , Read More
I have been on a long journey during this pandemic with supply chain issues.It’s a journey to buy a new car.The dealer says it is finally coming in May.Or June. What’s interesting is that my mother-in-law said, “Ellen, you deserve it.” Which hit me funny.Because there are probably a lot of people who deserve, Read More
That thing you are trying to accomplish? It doesn’t matter. Whether you achieve it or not doesn’t matter. You are not a better person because you accomplish something. It doesn’t mean you are superior in some way. It doesn’t mean you are more valuable or more important. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go, Read More
Some problems in life are gravity problems.As Bill Burnett of Stanford’s design program calls them, gravity problems are problems you have no control over. Like hurricanes.Or seasons.Or gravity. You can try all you want, but you won’t change them.There is a lot of pushing and head banging about problems that are unmovable forces. Everyone, Read More
Just got back from my four-day on-site Equus coach training where I practiced coaching people using horses to help people with their struggles and challenges. Horses are my partners in coaching.It’s magical and we go deep fast. So, here’s the most recent thing I have learned. (There is always an aha or two.) Boundary setting, Read More
I have never thought of myself as a minimalist. I think of myself as wanting the right amount. I want the good quality. I want plenty. But I don’t want a lot to maintain and clean. In my mind I want to be ready to move onto a boat and sail around the world, Read More
This creating a better life thing… I never said it would be easy. Your life is full. You have created everything about it… whether you love it or not. When we think of the life we want, we think about all the good things about it, not what we have to give up. But, Read More
What is left in your life if you don’t buffer? What would the world be like if you never overate, overdrank, overspent, overworked, overexercised, overpeople-pleased or overFacebooked? What would be left? When the big snow storm this winter took out our power, I was a little frightened.No computer? No kindle? No TV? No radio?, Read More