I had a lovely reminder this week that we create what we seek to escape. By trying to avoid something we fear, we draw it to ourselves. Catch 22ish. Our thoughts, like “My kids should come home for Mother’s Day,” create feelings like hurt and sorrow, which drive us to take actions like being a, Read More
You have heard it all. Eat less, move more.Spend less, invest more.Life can only be lived in the moment you are experiencing. Blah, blah, blah. Sigh. But knowing and doing are two separate things. It is applying what you know that trips most people up. Why aren’t you doing what you know you should, Read More
I was just rewatching a Mike Birbiglia comedy special on Netflix, and here’s what he said about why he journals… “If you write down what you are saddest about you can see your own life as a story. And if you see your life as a story, sometimes you can zoom out and encourage, Read More
If fear wasn’t part of the equation, how would YOUR LIFE look different? If you weren’t afraid to look like a fool,or start a new career,or say, “I love you,”or wear what you really want to wear,or ask for a raise,or say, “I don’t know,”or be afraid to not be liked,or take a big, Read More
Someone who makes you feel flattered… that’s someone who has your power. Someone whose opinion matters to us.Someone we respect or want to emulate. When it’s someone who routinely makes us feel less than, we are on guard.We steel ourselves to not give that power away. Protecting ourselves from someone trying to disrespect us, Read More
I am originally from Pittsburgh, Pa. It still forms my view of the world. Pittsburgh feels like home in a deep way and resonates with me some 40 years after I moved south. I grew up saying “you guys” when I talked about a group of people. That still feels right because it’s so, Read More
I grew up in Pittsburgh… the home of Mr. Rogers. I have heard from an early age, Mr. Rogers’ advice to children that when things are scary, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” There are a lot of flavors of scary right now.Scary wars.Prices are soaring.Fearmongering politics.Serious illnesses.Worry, Read More
In a lot of ways money is power.It is the power to say no.It is the power to have choices. Want to attract more power?Do you want more resources? Want to say “yes” more to what you want? Do you want more peace, joy, and ease?Because these are all aspects of power. But the, Read More
When I am talking with my clients about money, at some point we end up talking about purpose. What is my grand purpose in life?Why am I here? (Figuring out your purpose helps you figure out how it will be most joyful to create money and spend money.) But figuring out your grand purpose, Read More
I missed the in-town Christmas.I missed the out-of-town Christmas.I missed Christmas with Mom.I missed New Year’s Eve. I was busy worshipping the porcelain god. It was probably food poisoning. No one else what sick, but a week later I still feel like I was kicked in the gut by a truck. We’ll never know., Read More