Once you know this, you can’t not see it. In a landmark 1995 study, bronze medalists appear happier than silver medal winners. Why? When they thought about the alternative outcome, THAT created their level of happiness. When the silver medalists thought of an alternative outcome, it was winning gold.When bronze medalists thought of an, Read More
Most things that are hard to do are not actually hard to do. They are just made up of a bunch of small things that we do consistently for a long time. Raising children: consistency for a long time.College: consistency for years.Career: consistent for a long, long time.Climbing a mountain: practicing hand holds and, Read More
I am getting ready to call my mother-in-law and tell her that we’re not coming for the annual 4th of July celebration. I don’t really want to tell her why.It will just worry her for no good reason.And there’s truly nothing to worry about. But when setting boundaries, I don’t owe other people a reason.I, Read More
You are losing integrity with yourself. Here is what most women I know are doing …You tell yourself you are going to do something for yourself.And then you don’t do it. You say you are going to put yourself first.And then you put someone else’s need before yours. You say you are going to, Read More
I offer abundance (money) coaching. I offer life coaching. And now, after a decade hiatus, I am offering photography. i never quit photography totally, but 11 years after I closed the door on Ellen Yale Photography (my commercial/retail business) I am offering a limited selection of my services. It finally feels good again. I, Read More
I have been rereading the Tao de Ching, and I must need this idea in my life, because this jumped out at me… “When nothing is done, nothing is left undone.” Maybe I am feeling overwhelmed at balancing work and home life, parenting kids, parenting an aging parent, spousing, and well, the world right, Read More
I had a lovely reminder this week that we create what we seek to escape. By trying to avoid something we fear, we draw it to ourselves. Catch 22ish. Our thoughts, like “My kids should come home for Mother’s Day,” create feelings like hurt and sorrow, which drive us to take actions like being a, Read More
You have heard it all. Eat less, move more.Spend less, invest more.Life can only be lived in the moment you are experiencing. Blah, blah, blah. Sigh. But knowing and doing are two separate things. It is applying what you know that trips most people up. Why aren’t you doing what you know you should, Read More
I was just rewatching a Mike Birbiglia comedy special on Netflix, and here’s what he said about why he journals… “If you write down what you are saddest about you can see your own life as a story. And if you see your life as a story, sometimes you can zoom out and encourage, Read More
If fear wasn’t part of the equation, how would YOUR LIFE look different? If you weren’t afraid to look like a fool,or start a new career,or say, “I love you,”or wear what you really want to wear,or ask for a raise,or say, “I don’t know,”or be afraid to not be liked,or take a big, Read More