Money problems? Usually we either blame other people for causing our money pain… we hold others accountable… or else we blame ourselves. It may seem like blaming ourselves is taking responsibility. But a lot of the time blaming ourselves shows up as self-pity and self-loathing. We indulge in overwhelm and worry… neither of which helps, Read More

I want you to write down what you spend. Not so you can judge yourself.Not so you can criticize yourself about what you spent.Not so you can beat yourself up. I want you to write down what you spend so you can decide whether it makes you feel abundant or if you buy things, Read More

You can’t hate yourself richer. Thinking that you are stupid with money is not productive.Thinking that you are less than someone else who is “further ahead” is not useful. If you are trying to loath yourself into getting more money, it may spur you momentarily, but it’s not sustainable. The dream is that you, Read More

I could be upset.I could be angry or nervous or scared. But I don’t want to feel angry or nervous or scared or upset.My property tax just went through the roof. It seems like feeling angry is going to be motivation for change.It seems like being upset is the impetus for social justice. But, Read More

A money block is a thought you have that keeps you from feeling abundant. No matter how much money someone has, I see a lot of the same money blocks across the board. Here are three I hear a lot: 1 – Thinking you have to deserve it.Here’s the real deal…Money is just money.  It is, Read More

Sometimes I worry about greed. I worry that people will think I’m too greedy if I buy myself nice things. The dictionary says greed is, “Intense and selfish desire for something, especially wealth, power, or food.” I think you have to be careful about the word selfish. People throw around the word selfish like, Read More

My Dad, the banker, used to point out houses to me in the neighborhood.  They were huge mansions.  And my mother would chime in, “Those people can’t afford that house.  They are in foreclosure.” No one else knew they were in debt up to their eyeballs. But my parents who, bless their hearts, were terrified that they, Read More

Most of us pretend about money.Pretend we make more.Pretend we make less. We are hiding from ourselves and our money truth and other people. Money is a taboo subject.We don’t want to talk about it in public.Or even in private. We make money mean that we are worthy.Or not worthy. We say things like,, Read More

Magazines, old exercise equipment, old bills and clothes that don’t fit. It all had to go. These were things that cluttered my life.I couldn’t open one of my closet doors because it was stuffed so full of things I thought I might use but never have. When I had a friend over last week,, Read More