Who has the power to make you feel flattered?

Someone who makes you feel flattered… that’s someone who has your power.

Someone whose opinion matters to us.
Someone we respect or want to emulate.

When it’s someone who routinely makes us feel less than, we are on guard.
We steel ourselves to not give that power away.

Protecting ourselves from someone trying to disrespect us is familiar territory.

But flattery is different.

We don’t throw up a wall when we feel flattered.
We lean into it.
It is a good feeling.

Changing what you think and do because of flattery is a part of people pleasing.

And people pleasing is giving away your power.

The sword cuts both ways.

Sneaky, isn’t it?