The other day, one of my clients told me she didn’t want to be so busy.
That wasn’t true.

You are always as busy as you choose to be.

We have all seen babies.  (Or been a baby.) Or had a baby.
When there is something they don’t want to do, there is no way you are getting that baby to do it.
Take another bite of food?  Back out it comes in fun squirts.
Keep their socks on?  Not if they don’t want to.
Babies are the role models for how to only do what you choose to do.

As we get older, society, parents, and friends, tell us what we need to be doing.

And you may have a very good story about how you are different… you have an invalid mother, learning disabled child and a business to run.

But you are still CHOOSING to help those people you love.
It’s a choice.
You want to take care of them and support them more than you want the alternative of not taking those actions.
You could lay down and scream and cry and throw a tantrum.  Oh, baby.
You could wither away into a gray shell of your former self.
Or you can choose where you want to be on the continuum between the two.

All I’m saying, is you have all of the power over your time.  You are making the choices.

Play with your “have to ” list.
You will find almost nothing is a “have to”.

You are doing a lot of things because you are avoiding what you think the consequences will be.
Because you think someone else won’t do it as well as you.
Because you think you will miss something.
Because you think someone will suffer.
Because you think you will suffer.

But what these all have in common is that YOU THINK something is going to occur.
Nothing has even happened, and you have worked yourself into a frazzled, tired woman.
And you have chosen everything on that list.
I don’t think someone is handing you that list.  I am looking over your shoulder, and I’m pretty sure that’s your handwriting.

I’m not saying to shirk all responsibilities.
I’m just saying sometimes think WWBD (what would a baby do?)  Sometimes doing nothing is just what is needed in a situation.

You choose how busy you are.
Now you just have to believe it, and take your power back.