I have been certified as an Equus Coach!!!
Thanks to all who were a part of my two-year journey. It took a lot of client hours as well as learning about and working with horses to reach my goal.
Thanks to all my clients who let me experiment and try out new things and be vulnerable.
And thanks for being vulnerable with me. The collaboration got me through COVID and beyond.
If you would like to book a session, I am still taking clients for two-hour sessions at the ranch (in Gastonia, NC) until September 28th.
After that, I will be integrating the sessions into my six-month and year-long coaching packages rather than offering them as stand-alone sessions.
If you are interested, say “Yes” in the comments and I will try to schedule you before the 28th.
It’s pretty special.
Horses are amazing at giving feedback when we are stuck or struggling. I wish you all could experience it.
A lot of my clients don’t feel worthy of the money they have.
Only they don’t say it that way.
They say they are worried that they will lose all of this money they inherited.
Someone else earned it and they are afraid of sacrificing all of that person’s hard, hard work by screwing up and losing it.
Others say that they feel like an imposter when they go to make money.
They feel like someone is going to see through them and call them out. They aren’t the real deal like other people in their industry.
Still others have money flowing in and out of their lives but don’t have the self-worth to put some aside to take care of themselves when they get old or when they want to purchase something big.
I wish I could wave a magical fairy wand and give them self-worth.
But it doesn’t work that way.
There is no one thought that makes someone feel worthy.
There is no one event that will set everything right in their mind.
Creating self-worth isn’t an “Aha” moment.
Self-worth is like a building.
It takes a foundation AND flooring AND walls AND plumbing AND electrical AND windows AND a roof. At the very least.
Be patient with yourself.
You can build your self-worthiness.
Take the time and grace to locate all the pieces and make it solid.
You are worthy.
We are all worthy just by being born.
It just takes letting your mind catch up and pull together the evidence that builds the proof of self-worth.
My mother-in-law tells me that I DESERVE my new car.
I know she means that as a compliment. She is a sweetheart.
But I did nothing to deserve this car except save for it.
There are so many people more deserving than me.
And I do think I deserve it.
But we ALL deserve it.
Having things has nothing to do with deserving it unless you are a ten-year-old kid who did all your chores and that’s how you got something.
We have what we have because we decided to prioritize the thing and we had the resources to pay for it at the time it was the top priority.
Let’s not attach a lot of meaning to owning things.
It doesn’t feel good.
I was deserving of my new car 20 years ago. I just prioritized working less and paying for preschool for my toddlers so I could have some sanity. Last year the car bubbled up to top priority.
So I bought it.
Because that’s what I decided.
And that feels good.