There is no such thing as “bad with money”.
We just choose one need over another.
Like paying the power bill instead of health insurance.
Or buying tickets to the Eras Tour rather than saving for retirement.
We aren’t bad with money.
We just make choices.
Every day.
And even when we are saving instead of spending, that’s not necessarily a good choice.
It’s just a choice.
Take the drama out of it and you just have choices.
No judging.
Not yourself.
Not other people.
Then you can decide with clarity… with your deepest needs in mind.
I was on Wikipedia the other day, looking up Frances McDormand. (In case you have missed this special woman, she has 3 Oscars, Two Emmys and a Tony.)
I noticed that she was roommates with Holly Hunter while living in New York City, before either were famous.
It seems like a lot of famous people have roomed with other famous people.
Robin Williams roomed with Christopher Reeve at Julliard.
Brad Pitt and Jason Priestly.
Connie Britton and Kirsten Gillibrand. (Who knew?!?)
Adam Sandler and Judd Apatow.
Danny DeVito and Michael Douglas.
Wes Anderson and Owen Wilson were college roommates.
Tommy Lee Jones and Al Gore were roommates at Harvard.
Jonah Hill and Justin Long.
These were all roommates before they made it big.
This list goes on and on.
Now, I know there might be a lot of reasons that both halves of these pairs have gone on to big success.
They might have had similar training/education.
They might have shared networks to give them both access to successful people.
They might have pushed each other to excel.
But here’s my theory.
I think one had some success and the other had the thought, “Hell, if he/she can do it, I can do it.”
I know I’ve had that thought about a lot of people I went to school with.
I bought my first house at a young age because a guy I knew bought one and I thought, “If HE can do it, I can do it.”
Back in high school, I was a better musician than one of my classmates who went on to a big career in music. I know if he could do it, I could have done it too.
That special advantage, of thinking they are as good and worthy as the people who are at the top of their fields, is only because of their thinking.
They Believe with a capital B.
It’s beyond belief. They KNOW.
And while you can’t go back in time and become friends with Taylor Swift 20 years ago to gain that advantage, we can all decide that we can do it.
We can believe our success is inevitable.
We can decide what to think.
It’s a superpower we can gift to ourselves.
What do you want to believe?
I have a lot of grievances.
Why isn’t my husband more interested in my health?
Why doesn’t my son communicate better?
Why don’t the people in my book club read the book?
Why doesn’t someone invite me to join their book club?
But there is a better question.
Instead of asking why other people are doing crazy-ass things, the better, more productive question is to ask…
Why am I all up in their business?
Especially since I can’t actually change someone else.
I don’t mean that I am the problem.
But by wanting other people to change I am trying to control them.
I only have control over my own thoughts, feelings and actions.
That’s where I can get traction.
Ask a better question, get a better result.
What’s a great question you can ask yourself?