How are you supposed to learn new things?
By trying things out.
By failing.
By looking like a dumbass.
By assessing and trying again. (This is the part most people skip. They fail and stop.)
You don’t want to just simply try again.
If you fail over and over without assessment and change, you will eventually become discouraged and give up.
But it doesn’t have to feel like work.
I went skiing last week for the first time in around 30 years.
My daughter asked me to teach her how to ski and I was excited.
It combined two of my greatest loves… skiing and teaching.
The biggest complement was when she said, “That wasn’t as hard as I thought it was going to be!!!”
That’s what a trainer strives for:
When someone thinks they are smart and wonderful and doesn’t even realize that the trainer was the secret sauce.
Maybe that’s what makes a good Mom too. Hmmm.
Most of my skiing skills came right back to me, but I was learning and relearning as I went.
We went from snowplow (now called pizza) to turning, to bringing the uphill ski parallel to the downhill ski, to a little ankle action.
It wasn’t pretty (on my part) but it felt so right.
What would you like to learn at this point in your life?
What is the first small step to take towards it?
Let’s talk New Years Goals.
Have you already dropped your New Years Resolutions for 2025?
Then let’s talk goals.
My goal for the year is more connection.
That was my goal in 2024, and it has gone even more spectacularly than expected.
More, please.
(Feel free to connect with me this year. 
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Obviously, you are going to have your own goal for this new year.
I used to make my goals quantifiable and bite sized so I had some quick wins right off the bat.
That might look like, “Contact two people each month whom I haven’t talked to in a while.” Or, “Text my kids each week.”
That quantifiable strategy worked well for a long time.
But I’ve gotten a little less achievement oriented and have become more feeling-centered. So now my goal is a feeling.
But whether I meet my goal(s) or not, my intention behind what I do makes each day richer.
My intention for the year – Play
Because I find solutions more easily when I play rather than work. And it’s more fun.
Maybe I could have more connection through play?!?
What are your goals for 2025?
What is your intention for 2025?
Is the thing you want the thing you need?
Sometimes it is.
I need my husband.
And I want him.
Win-win.
I also want to have my retirement fully funded.
But that’s not what I need.
I need the stress and the grind of saving the money, investing the money and riding the roller coaster ride of investing in the stock market.
I need the struggle.
I need to make mistakes and then make course corrections.
The struggle is what makes me proud of the way I have created my own destiny.
If I inherited the money… if I won the lottery… the journey is not the same.
I need the struggle that creates the container for my personal growth.
With the struggle I learn.
I’m investing in my character.
Is the thing you want the thing you need?