You know what the opposite of sitting with your feelings looks like…
Poor sleep. A thousand different ideas flying here, there and everywhere. Some with substance. Most without.
Busyness as a coping mechanism.
Everything and anything to avoid sitting with your feelings.
Sitting with your feelings is the opposite.
It looks like sitting.
But you are feeling all the feelings.
Without judgment.
Only curiosity and compassion.
You feel the sensations in your body.
And they pass.
It’s a painful and glorious part of the human experience.
Try it the next time you feel overwhelmed or tumultuous or frightened.
Just sitting and feeling.
And releasing.
And then try it the next time you feel exuberant or joyful or happy.
Take the opportunity to sit and feel the good feelings.
Explore the contrast.
Try it right now.
It’s delicious!
There are a lot of results we want in life.
We want a certain candidate to win the election.
We want to reach specific goals in our career.
We want to live in a town, or kind of house, or in my case with a particular hunky blond guy.
We can visualize the results.
We can taste the results.
And we ideally want the path to go from where we are now, directly to that goal.
Here’s where the frustration comes in.
We are looking for a linear path in a floaty world.
We want Google Maps instructions when all the while we are feathers in the wind.
Most of the time we don’t even have the correct target.
We think the result is an outcome, when what we are really longing for is a feeling.
We want our candidate to win so we feel safe.
We want a career goal, so we feel proud. Or financially safe.
We want to live with that hunky blond guy so we feel loved and cherished. And emotionally safe.
Not having a clear step towards what you want can feel unsafe.
But what would it look like if safety is you floating around on life’s breeze?
How can we embrace the floaty world?
How would life be different if you changed your expectations from living in a linear world to a world of flow?
Mirror neurons: Easy, practical science for a badass life.
A mirror neuron is a neuron that fires both when a person acts
and when a person observes that same action performed by another person.
It’s like when someone yawns and that makes you yawn.
Or like when you realize you and the person you are talking to both have your hand on your hip and are taking a sip of your drinks.
Mirroring.
This has all sorts of implications.
If what we see is what we project, we can consciously create what we project to others by who we hang out with.
Who do you want to see reflected in your mirror?
Who has the kind of relationships you want to have?
Who handles their money in a way you want to graciously use your abundance?
Who moves through life like the kind of badass you want to be (or not be)?
Mirroring is unconscious. But you can utilize it consciously.
Who do you want to mirror?